Middle America's Worldview

Woman Honor Thyself had a trackback in regards to the fundamental necesaties of marriage. As of this month, I have been married for 12 years. In today's currently culture and age, that seems alot. However, the time has truly flown by.

I recall before I was married, while working in ER, a 70+ year old lady and I briefly talked. Somehow the discussion came up, with me getting married. I was probably excited and shared it with everyone (smile).

Irregardless, she had some knowledge to share with me. She said, "Many people say it's 50-50, but it's not. It's 70-30. When you think your giving your 70, so does she."

I kept that with me to this day (nearly 13 years later). Personally, I think it boils down to not being selfish. I fear what this young culture worldview is. We are so bombarded with 'me me me me' and individual choices, it lacks compassion of helping the fellow man out of the pure purpose of giving.

Yes, I think helping out around the house is great. I personally never had a problem doing it. However, I wonder if it's pushed so much now, do to the fact couples are separated most of the day with their jobs. While at home doing chores together, they are actually contributing something together. A sad thought, really.

Another thought, I wonder if most of these kids actually know what self-sufficient really means. I lived alone for awhile before marriage. Yes, it was a small dinky place, but it was my cave. If I missed the toilet, I cleaned it up (wink).

So maybe, you can take that with you.

Listen to your spouse. Try to remember the important dates, and if you start out with a bang on those holidays, don't stop.

Don't forget the message passed to me. "It's 70-30. When you think your giving the 70, so does she." Because in marriage, it's about giving.